Before you start the conversation
- Think about when and where best to talk to them – in the car or a neutral place where they feel safe
- Jot down what you want to say to focus your mind, and make the conversation relevant to them
- Be open and encouraging to make them feel supported
- Have a few bite sized conversations to give them time to process
What you need to know
- Have access to a smartphone or tablet
- Use the internet to play games
- Do homework online
- Watch videos on YouTube or socialise with friends
- There has been a rapid growth in the number of 11-13 years olds using social media – often with accounts on multiple social networks
- Children as young as 11 post an average of 26 times a day, attract 100 followers to every one of their profiles
- Over two thirds of 11- 12 year olds have a Facebook profile despite a minimum age of 13
- Bullying is a learnt behaviour – so it’s important to set a good example and regularly reinforce being a good digital citizen
Tips to prevent cyberbullying
- Set parental controls on devices your child can access
- Talk to your child about what it means to have friends and followers online. Are they real friends? Can they trust them?
- Be aware that your child might start exploring romantic relationships. Talk about what they can safely share and who to trust
- Encourage your child to be kind to others and think about the impact of words and actions
Tips to deal with cyberbullying
- Don’t jump to conclusions – Gently explore with your child what has gone on before the message or the post
- Be aware the cyberbullying can be a continuation of, or a response to bullying already happening at school or elsewhere
- Don’t encourage your child to retaliate in any way that is angry, offensive or threatening
- Be aware that all forms of bullying can make you feel very sad, afraid and alone. Reassure your child that together you will sort it out
- Think carefully before taking away your child’s access to their phone or tablet (this can increase loneliness)
- Help your child to report any offensive content to the social media provider
- Encourage your child to broaden their network of friends and to take part in activities that make them feel good about themselves
- Seek help – You could talk to your child’s school or if your child feels harassed or threatened, the police.
