There’s a chance that your child may meet people online or visit websites that could lead them to adopting what you consider to be extreme views, and becoming radicalised. Curiosity could lead your child to seek out these people, or they could befriend your child in order to encourage them to adopt beliefs or persuade them to join groups whose views and actions you as a parent would consider extreme.


of parents are concerned about radicalisation ¹


increase in Google searches related to ‘radicalisation’ between Dec 14 and Jan 15 ²


children knows a gang member ³

How could my child become radicalised?

Young people may be vulnerable to a range of risks as they pass through adolescence. They may be exposed to new influences and potentially risky behaviours, influence from peers, influence from older people or the internet as they may begin to explore ideas and issues around their identity.

There is no single driver of radicalisation, nor is there a single journey to becoming radicalised. The internet creates more opportunities to become radicalised, since it’s a worldwide 24/7 medium that allows you to find and meet people who share and will reinforce your opinions. Research tells us that the internet and face-to-face communications work in tandem, with online activity allowing a continuous dialogue to take place.

Why could social networking be a concern?

Your child may actively search for content that is considered radical, or they could be persuaded to do so by others. Social media sites, like Facebook, Ask FM and Twitter, can be used by extremists looking to identify, target and contact young people. It’s easy to pretend to be someone else on the internet, so children can sometimes end up having conversations with people whose real identities they may not know, and who may encourage them to embrace extreme views and beliefs.

Often children will be asked to continue discussions, not via the mainstream social media, but via platforms, such as Kik Messenger, Whisper, Yik Yak or Omegle. Moving the conversation to less mainstream platforms can give users a greater degree of anonymity and can be less easy to monitor.

People who encourage young people to do this are not always strangers. In many situations they may already have met them, through their family or social activities, and then use the internet to build rapport with them. Sometimes children don’t realise that their beliefs have been shaped by others, and think that the person is their friend, mentor, boyfriend or girlfriend and has their best interests at heart.

What are the signs I should look out for

There are a number of signs to be aware of (although a lot of them are quite common among teens). Generally parents should look out for increased instances of:

  • A conviction that their religion, culture or beliefs are under threat and treated unjustly
  • A tendency to look for conspiracy theories and distrust of mainstream media
  • The need for identity and belonging
  • Being secretive about who they’ve been talking to online and what sites they visit
  • Switching screens when you come near the phone, tablet or computer
    Possessing items – electronic devices or phones – you haven’t given them
  • Becoming emotionally volatile.

Online safety, extremism, and the role of parents

Sara Khan, Director and Co-Founder of Inspire (a counter extremism and women’s rights organisation) discusses some of the important topics related to radicalisation and extremism.

Films aimed to build young people’s resilience to violent extremism and the role of parents

Christianne Boudreau opens up about the death of her son Damian, who was killed while fighting for ISIS in Syria in January 2014. In this film she bravely shares her family’s anguish and details her son’s journey.

See the entire series of short emotive films from Extreme Dialogue.

What can lead young children to become radicalised?

Political and religious groups can provide a sense of family or support that children may feel is lacking in their lives. This desire for security could also be due to poverty, unemployment, social isolation or feelings of rejection by their own faith, family or social circle.

In some cases the trigger may be an event, either global or personal, such as being a victim or witness to a race or religious hate crime. Young people may also join these groups as a result of peer pressure and the desire to ‘fit in’ with their social circle.

However, it should also be remembered that not all young people that experience these factors adopt radical views.

Talking about radicalisation with your child

This is a difficult topic to broach with your child and needs to be dealt with sensitively if you’re concerned about their behaviour. Here are some tips to help you raise the subject and information to give your child to prevent them being unintentionally exposed to radical ideas:

Be approachable

Let them know you’re there to help them if they get into trouble online – and if they’re concerned about something they can come to you.

Be calm and don’t get angry

Your child is far more likely to be open and honest with you if you remain calm about the situation.

Tell someone

Make sure your child is aware that if something them worried or uncomfortable online their best course of action is always to talk to an adult they trust.

Talk to them about their online friendships

Find out what sites they go to, where they met their online friends, how they communicate and what information they share. Talk to them about being cautious about what they share with people online. Remind them that even though people they’ve met online might feel like friends they may not be who they say they are, and that they may have ulterior motives for befriending them.

Don’t be confrontational

Your child’s beliefs are a sensitive subject and need handling carefully as you don’t want to push them away or shut them out.

Be safe in real life

Teach your child to never arrange to meet someone they only know online without a parent present.

Encourage them to share their ideas and opinions

Many young people are often not aware of the realities and consequences of the radical ideas they have formed or the arguments against them.

What action should I take?

If you feel your child – or another child – may be in immediate danger, a threat to others or there is a risk they may leave the country, contact the police and ensure that their passport is kept in a safe place.

You can report any concerns about online grooming to the National Crime Agency’s CEOP Command.

Where to get help

The Active Change Foundation (ACF) provide a confidential helpline to prevent British nationals from travelling to conflict zones. 020 8539 2770

The Anti-Terrorist Hotline is where to report any suspicious activity that may be related to terrorism. 0800 789 321

If your child wants to talk to someone in confidence they can call Childline on 0800 1111 or Get Connected on 0808 808 4994 (text 80849)

The Home Office provides advice for parents concerned that their child may be involved in a gang

Mothers against Violence offers advice and support to those who may feel their child is at risk or involved in gun/gang/knife crime. Call them on 08450 662 4867

Muslim Youth Helpline (MYH) is a national award winning charity that provides free and confidential faith and culturally sensitive support services targeted at vulnerable young people in the UK. 0808 808 2008

Parents can call the NSPCC’s free 24/7 adult helpline on 0808 800 5000, email [email protected] or text 88858. You can also contact the Stop it Now! helpline on 0808 1000 900 where you can seek advice anonymously

See it Report it provide information on how to report extremist content through social media channels

If you see any content online related to terrorism, you can report it anonymously to the Counter Terrorism Internet Referral Unit (CTIRU)

Where can I go for more information?

See below for selected resources:

Hope not Hate

Hope not Hate exists to provide a positive antidote to the politics of hate. They combine research with community organising & grassroots actions to defeat hate groups at elections and to build community resilience against extremism.


This website gives parents, teachers and school leaders practical advice on protecting children from extremism and radicalisation.


Families Against Stress and Trauma is a UK-based organisation providing support to vulnerable families and individuals. It’s publicly funded and its services are free of charge. It welcomes everyone regardless of ethnicity, background or religion.

JAN Trust

JAN Trust is a multi-award winning NGO that supports and provides services to grass roots and hard to reach communities. Founded in 1989, we have been supporting thousands of grass roots women and young people across the UK.

Muslim Youth Network

Muslim Youth Helpline (MYH) is a national award winning charity that provides free and confidential faith and culturally sensitive support services targeted at vulnerable young people in the UK.

MYH was founded in August 2001 by young people to respond to the social problems endured by Muslim youth in the UK.

Tower Hamlets Council

A booklet for concerned parents. Some contact numbers are specific to the borough, but the advice can be applied to all. Scroll to the bottom of the linked page to download the ‘Advice to Parents and Carers’ booklet.

narratives and conversations

The London Grid for Learning has produced video content with leading extremism experts specialising in ISIS and the far right to provide information, insight and advice to help schools navigate this difficult area.

Safe Network

Safe Network has some excellent information and advice that will help parents understand gangs and how they can help prevent their children getting involved in gang activity.

Metropolitan Police

Useful information on gangs and violence.

The Online Civil Courage Initiative | OCCI

The Online Civil Courage Initiative (OCCI) is a European Initiative challenging hate speech and extremism online.

  1. Cybersafe, 2013.
  2. Google keyword research (Internet Matters)
  3. ONS, Crime Survey for England and Wales