Sometimes it can be difficult for children to speak directly to their parents. They may be embarrassed, think they won’t ‘get it’ and, of course, due to their age, may well be going through a stage of development where speaking to their peers, an older friend or sibling is more likely.
When young people are using the online space, they can often find supportive spaces where they can converse with others who understand their position. For example, a group might exist for children who have lost a parent and in there, they can find other children and young people who can help them explore their feelings.
It is important that our young people have spaces they can communicate with others like this, and where empathy and connection provide a relational need that can help them manage their emotional processes. As always, be aware that people can speak to almost anyone else online and so managing the fine line between supporting them in seeking support and respecting this, versus intrusion, or giving them absolute freedom is a challenge for many of the parents I work with.
Leave the conversation door open for them to approach you and, you never know, they might just do that.