Do’s & Don’ts to consider
Do talk about it in the context of relationships and communication
This will allow kids to begin to think critically about concepts like what respect and boundaries mean in relationships from a young age.
Do talk about it in terms of safety
The same way that you would talk about anything that they may not be developmentally ready to stumble across.
Do make it a habit to point out that they should feel empowered to decide what happens to their body
Check in with them about personal boundaries – don’t force them to give hugs if they don’t want to, they need to feel they have a say in what feels comfortable for them.
Do get them to get into the habit of chatting to you about how they feel
Whether its a bedtime chat about their day or when driving them back from school, make talking about experiences and feelings a habit.
Don’t make it taboo to talk about relationships and sex
Point out what healthy relationships (friendships and romantic relationships) look like- respect, kindness, reciprocity sensitise them to what healthy relationships are.
Don’t make it something to be fearful of
- Minimise anxiety by speaking about taboo subjects with confidence
- Don’t avoid addressing the issue just because they are young- you can have the talk in an age-appropriate way that you then build on in later years
- Don’t let your discomfort about an issue make it an issue for them
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