Do’s & Don’ts to consider
Do talk about unrealistic representations of sex in pornography
Stress that what they are seeing is often a conflation of sex and violence, is dictated by a handful of pornographers that use extreme acts to shock people into watching and has little bearing on reality.
Do talk about unrealistic representations of bodies pornography
The body image talk here is key for both boys and girls – everything from hairless bodies to fake breasts, talk about the misrepresentation of reality.
Do talk about the impact of sexualisation on young people
Point it out wherever you see it – in signs, in music videos in magazines
Do get them to think critically about the images they see
Don’t let them be passive viewers get them to think about why women are being depicted in this way and the impact it has on expectations in relationships.
Dont allow pornographers to talk to them before you
You have the chance to influence how they absorb this material, make sure you take it.
Don’t make them feel guilty about what they have seen
You want them to be able to come to you so you need to be on the same side
Don't forget to check in with them regularly
This is not a one-off conversation so raise it again when they get their first partner and talk about their feelings about intimacy and boundaries.
Don't make it difficult for them to come to you
Have an open door policy, be patient, be on their side.
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