Pornography can be a difficult subject to talk about with children, especially younger ones. But it’s important to let your child know that pornography doesn’t show a realistic picture of sex and relationships. Explore our guide of dos and don’ts for having an age-appropriate conversation about online porn with your child.
Children in the UK are exposed to online pornography – on average – by the age of thirteen, so it’s important to be proactive, rather than waiting for the issue to arise. There are a number of benefits to having a conversation with your child:
- A light conversation children understand their bodies and you can support them in developing a positive body image
- It gives you an opportunity to share values about sexuality and give them a better idea of what is the norm is sex and relationships
- Gives them a better understanding of what a healthy sexual relationship should consist of and what it should not
- They need to learn about the topic from somewhere and as a parent, it is better that you control that conversation
It’s also important to explore what your child already knows and understands. For example, what they may have learnt from their school, peers or older siblings. And remember, Ii you seem embarrassed to talk about sex and pornography your child will also feel uncomfortable and will be less likely to let you know if they have seen sexual images.
Try techniques like getting them to write things down, or start conversations when they don’t have to look you in the eye, for example, when in the car, or walking home from school.