Learn about self-harm
Get information on what self-harm is, what makes a young person vulnerable to self-harm and the impact it can have.
What is digital self-harm?
Self-harm is a growing issue among young people and while it is seen to be physical abuse, now, more teens are using social media to encourage others to abuse them online. To support parents on this issue, our experts give insight into why this is happens and what parents can do to support their children.
- Why do young people self-harm?
- Self-harm facts and statistics
- How to spot the signs of self-harm
- Recommended resources
Why do young people self-harm?
There are many reasons why young people may start to self-harm. Family reasons, such as not getting on with other family members or their parents getting divorced, may be the trigger.
They may have personal problems to do with sexuality, race, culture or religion, or they may suffer from low self-esteem and feelings of isolation. Bereavement, current or previous experience of abuse in childhood or stress as a result of bulling or impending exams can all lead to self-harm.
Self-harm facts and statistics
Girls are more than twice as likely to self-harm than boys. Source: The Good Childhood Report 2018.
One in four of 11 to 16-year olds in England who had a mental health problem said that they had self-harmed or attempted suicide at some point. Source: Mental Health of children and Young people in England – 2017.
A US study found that approximately 6% of young people between 12 and 17 have digitally self-harmed by anonymously sharing negative information about themselves online.
How to spot the signs of self-harm
There are two types of self-harm: physical and emotional, and young people will go to great lengths to hide them or explain them away.
The signs to look for with physical self-harm are cuts, bruises, burns and bald patches from hair pulling. Young people are likely to cover themselves up in long-sleeved clothes and hats to hide the signs.
The signs of emotional self-harm are a lot more difficult to spot – and it shouldn’t be assumed that a young person is self-harming purely on this basis. If you spot these in addition to the physical signs there may be cause for concern. The emotional signs include: depression, tearfulness and low motivation, unusual eating habits, sudden weight loss or gain, low self-esteem and drinking or taking drugs.
Self-harm can start at a very young age, i.e. seven years old or more commonly between the ages of 12 and 15 years old.
Experts say self-harm behaviour normally end within five years of starting, however, for some, it can last into adulthood.
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