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Understanding Cyberbullying

While the emotional aspects of bullying continue to be devastating, the internet and social media have changed the way children experience bullying. Cyberbullying, simply put is bullying that happens online through social, gaming or instant messaging platforms.

To help you support your child on this issue we’ve created a hub of advice to prepare them for what they might encounter online and practical ways to tackle cyberbullying should it happen.

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Empowering children to be kind online

Together with the BBC, Internet Ambassador Dr Linda offers tips to be kind online
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for children it's never been more

important to support each other and

speak up when and if they come across

the situation online that's unfair

so how do we check in with our kids

teach them and remind them to be kind

online kind every profile picture

there's a real person real feelings is

really key so especially if your child

is just getting used to chatting online

it can take a while for them to work out

those small nuances of you know what is

and isn't appropriate right so they'll

meet guidance for you to kind of make

those those safer choices

um help them to realize it just because

you're behind the screen it doesn't mean

that your actions will have less of an

impact will be less hurtful right on on

the other hand and encourage them to

kind of pause before sharing I think a

lot of times what happens online is that

kind of knee-jerk reaction and just kind

of taking that beat thinking about you

know what they're gonna say mask

themselves is this something that I'd

say to someone face to face so again

this idea that you know their words

their actions are actually you know not

just going out into the ether they're

gonna impact someone so remind them that

when they post whether it's a joke or a

comment you others really can't see

through those smaller things whether

they're you know they're smiling or

they're laughing again those nuances so

get them to think about sort of

considering whether it's a good idea to

share something written in that way you

know is shared in that way or not it's

about taking that beat to think more

critically about not just what they're

saying but very very importantly how

they're saying it finally if they are

older and still quite savvy about what

they share it doesn't hurt to remind

them that you know that good old t-shirt

test right so if you wouldn't put it on

a t-shirt for everyone to see it's

probably not best to share it online

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try and talk about how it might make

someone feel to be left out of a group

kind of you know encouraging them to

empathize with people in another group

is really really important both online

and all right so encourage them to try

and be more inclusive when it comes to

things like who chatter or online gaming

make sure they know how to treat others

and critically get them to think of how

they'd like to be treated themselves I

think the idea of you know speaking to

your child about whether they're going

to be a bystander or an upstander is a

critical one whether it's online or off

so whether it's encouraging your child

to to send a supportive message to a

friend but struggling right to let them

know that they're not alone

I'm if your child sees something unkind

online encourage them not to make the

situation worse by you know

inadvertently provoking those involved

even further encourage your child to

celebrate what makes them and others

unique so they see differences as

something positive if your child is a

victim of cyber bullying make sure you

talk about it

don't stop who going online blog or

report the bully and show your support

there are other resources that you may find helpful

the BBC own an app is designed for kids

and is helping to make the internet a

kinder sacred place one message at a

time the app comes with a special

keyboard that offers guidance advice to

kids when they're chatting to their

friends in real-time as they type you

can also visit the internet matters

website which offers a range of advice

to get to grips with helping your child

be kind online how we behave online

shouldn't differ from how we behave

offline teaching our children about

kindness online will benefit them and

others around you

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Duke of Cambridge meets with campaigners sharing their experiences to help put an end to cyberbullying.
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Lucy Alexander -

As soon as I lost Felix, I knew that I had to talk.

Social media was his life. His whole life revolved around it.

It was the way everyone communicated, and if you weren't on it you were isolated.

If her was invited to a party, somene would text saying ``You don't want to invite him. Everyone hatest him``.

And all he saw was negative. He Saw himself as stupid and ugly. It just ate way at him inside, I think but I just had no idea of the depth of his despair at all.

Duke of Cambridge -

It's one thing whene it happens in the playground and it's visible there, and parents and teachers and other children can see it online, you're the only one who sees it and it's so personal isn't?

It goes straight to your room

Chloe Hinde

Online now, with social media, you can't escape it

You're constantly with that bully.

Lucy Alexander

There's no escape from it and it's written down, so it is there to look back at time and time again, and if you are in a negative space that's all you can see and you look for the negativity. You Look for the cruel things

Chloe Hinde: I was in this group and if I was to say something that agreed with a comment someone else would make that would then be twistsed and if would go on and then people just turned against me because they were ike: ``Oh she said this one thing that one time so let's all hate her for that``. And then it kind of spiralled out of control from there, really. I stated to self-harm as a way to cope. To make me feel better and then I decided that I couldn't take this anymore and then I tried to end my life. it was song writing that helped me realise that my life was worth living . I started to write down how I was feeling. It was writing a suicide note that allowed me... It was like ``Oh my gosh, I'm getting to same relief from this that I am from self-harming``

Duke of cambridge

It is so brave of you both to speak so honestly about it I know it can't have been easy but I can't thank you enough. I only wish that neither of you had gone through what you've gone through.

Chloe Hinde

I just want to say thank you. That's so brave because I was in that place and it I had done that to my Mum. I sort of feel that Felix has given me a job to do and my job is to make sure that we try to help as many other people like him.

Duke of cambridge

I think it is worth reminding everyone what the human tradgedy of what we are talking about here isn't just about companies and about online stuff. It's actually real lives that get affected and the consequences, that's the big thing. The consequences of what happens if things are not kept in check in terms of what we say and what we do. And we are still responsible for our own actions online. This anonymity, as you were saying, is really, really dangerous.

Can I give you both a hug? You're very brave, honestly, so thank you.

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