As a parent, it can be difficult to accept that your child is exhibiting the behaviour of a cyberbully.
Although it may be difficult to understand why a child would be mean online, there are things that you can do to help them address their behaviour in a positive way.
When you find out that your child has acted as a cyberbully, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation that is free of judgement. Keep these tips in mind if you believe your child has been the bully:
Ask them whether there is a reason they are acting this way and try to resolve any underlying issues to stop it happening. Encourage them to think about how they would feel if the comments were about them.
Tell them that the behaviour is not acceptable. Persistent cyberbullying could cause them to lose friends or result in being reported to their school or even the police.
Work with your family, other trusted adults and your child’s teacher to send clear messages to your child about the impact this could have on them and the person or people they are targeting.
Children learn from their parents, so modelling positive behaviour will help your child take on similar behaviours. Engaging in activities that help build empathy and understanding of how to resolve conflict in the right way will give children the tools to deal with difficult situations that they may face.
It’s important to note that your child may need some time to take new positive behaviours on board, so being patient with them and showing them that they have your support will really help.
It can be overwhelming if you’re faced with a situation where your child is the bully. There are certain actions that can potentially have a negative effect. You may want to avoid the following:
Remember that you are not alone. Our Cyberbullying Hub features stories from parents who have been exactly where you are. Find them here.
