Help children use the new code and inspire change to stop cyberbullying
Speak, Stop, Support is a great tool to help your child make smart choices online. You can use it as a talking point to better understand how they interact in their digital world.
- Encourage your child to tell you or another adult they trust if they see or experience cyberbullying.
- Be aware that cyberbullying can be a continuation of or a response to bullying already happening at school or elsewhere.
- Tell them not to retaliate in any way that is angry, offensive or threatening, likewise as an adult stay calm and listen without judging.
- Be aware that all forms of bullying can make children feel very sad, afraid and alone. Reassure your child that together you will sort it out.
- Online bullying can be complex, involving a number of people so it’s best to gently explore together what might have happened to have resulted in the upsetting messages or posts.
- Collect any evidence and together assess how serious the cyberbullying is. You can take screenshots to capture the evidence.
- Help them feel empowered and supported. In the first instance, it may be more appropriate for them to try and deal with the situation themselves.
- If they are a perpetrator, help them understand the impact of their actions and ask questions to understand why they are behaving in such a way. Reinforce that this kind of behaviour will inevitably have consequences.
- Explore together what the social networks community guidelines are. Click to see links to the top social network guidelines: Instagram / Snapchat / Facebook: Twitter/ Musical.ly
- Explain to your child that most community guidelines advise users to:
Always respect others
Keep personal information secure
Make sure you have permission or the ‘right’ to share content before you do
Never to post anything that could be considered threatening, bullying or harassment, hateful, or inciting suicide or violence
Never post images that contain nudity, or glorify self-harm or violence
- Make your child aware that there may be content that upsets them that doesn’t necessarily violate the sites’ community guidelines. In this case, advise them to mute, unfollow or block the person who posted it.
- Create an environment where they feel safe to talk to you or a trusted adult about what they are going through (See our guide).
Check in with them regularly and ask open questions
Start conversations when you have sufficient time to talk at length
Open up and share your own online experiences
Be involved in their digital life on a regular basis
Be aware of signs of cyberbullying and keep an eye on their behaviour
- Try to stay calm and don’t get upset or angry about what they are saying; resist the temptation to remove devices as this might lead to further feelings of isolation
- Help your child to report any offensive content they see to the appropriate social media provider – visit Thinkuknow website for instructions for the most popular apps.
- If the content is sexual, targeted at a child’s ethnicity, gender, disability or sexuality, if threats are being made to harm a child or incite a child to harm themselves, then report the activity to the police.
- It is helpful to block or mute the person sending the messages so they can’t contact your child.
- Don’t delete their social media accounts or take away their device, as this could isolate them even further, and may make them reluctant to tell you things in future.
- Make them aware of places to turn for help or counselling if they need it. See our resources page for a comprehensive list of organisations that offer support.
- Encourage your child to be kind to others and think about the impact of words and actions.
- Advise them to take safe and effective action to support the victim such as:
Sending a message of encouragement
Including them, in their activities, if the person is feeling isolated
Encouraging them to seek help in any way they can
- Discuss situations when your child can stand up for himself/herself or others – and be an ‘Upstander’ rather than a ‘Bystander.’
- Celebrate your child’s actions and his/her bravery when they take positive action to support somebody.
- Reassure your child that they have your full support and can approach a teacher or seek further help if they have been a victim of bullying.
- Listen to what they have to say and make sure they know you are taking it seriously. Agree together if you are going to speak out to support someone.
- Be aware that they may be reluctant to open up and report their friends if the issue takes place within a friendship group. See our guide to help them feel confident to share what is going on.
- Suggest ideas for how your child might support the person being bullied. They might help them to focus on positive things in their lives and other things that make them happy.
- Explore if they can support the victim by encouraging them to take part in some more positive group activities away from social media.
- Perhaps they could send a private message of support to the victim to make sure they know they are not alone.
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